Wedding Killers

We’ve all seen it; both as guests and as wedding professionals.  The party is going full force…music pumping, dance floor full, lights blazing and then all of a sudden…like someone let the air out of a balloon the party fizzles out.  Well, here are two reasons why:

1) The bride and groom leave their party.  Friends and family look to the bride and groom and their wedding party to lead them in the dancing and festivities.  If they can’t see you on the dance floor, chances are they won’t go out on their own.  If you smoke, run out for a quick puff, but don’t spend 20 minutes outdoors socializing while your reception on going on in another area.  This is your day, and you ARE the center of attention.  It goes so fast, savor every moment by staying in the venue with your family and friends.

2) Group pictures.  Nothing kills the momentum of a party like 40 or 50 people leaving the room all at once to go take a picture.  Insist on getting these done during cocktail hour or after the ceremony.  They are rarely used in your album, so consider eliminating them altogether.

Weddings have a life, a birth, a beginning, a middle and an end.  Make sure you nurture your wedding with your presence and some good planning.

Please Be Seated

Seating assignments or “escort cards” as they are called, seem to cause a lot of unneeded problems.  Here are a few hints…

-Your guests don’t know where they are sitting, but they all know their names; so escort cards should always have the name of the invited guest first and foremost and the table number underneath.  So many times I set up an escort table and see a sea of table numbers with the names underneath.  I know, it will take twice as long for friends and family to navigate the sea of numbers to find their name.

-Flourishy fonts are beautiful, but in a dimmed venue, it makes them impossible to read.  Choose a large, easy to read block letter when possible.

-When handing in escort cards to your venue, alphabetize them by the last name of the invited guests.  I see so many times, that the couples group the guests by the table they are sitting at.  As I said in the earlier comment, everybody knows their name, but not many know their tables ahead of time.

Just a few thoughts to make your wedding planning easier!

Is Your Wedding “Wearing You?”

I’ve learned a lot from those ladies on “Say Yes To The Dress”.  They talk about the bride wearing the dress and the dress not wearing the bride.  I have been thinking about that this season as I see couples hire a dee jay with 6 people, a photographer with 4 assistants and a videographer with 4 assistants.  In a massive venue with a lot of pre-function space and vast ballrooms, it seems to work.  Clarks Landing from the start was designed as an elegant seaside mansion that would be yours for the day to celebrate your wedding with your friends and family.  As our “Best of the Best” recommended professionals would attest; I normally don’t interfere with them doing their jobs, because they have been selected and “fit” our venue.  But over the past few months I’ve had to ask a videographer to move;  who was laying across the aisle such that the bride and groom and the wedding party had to step over him to walk down the aisle.  I had to ask a photographer to move as she was taking pictures of the bride and groom during the toasts…who was totally blocking the best man and maid of honor giving the toasts.  I made a photographer move when I saw the mother of the bride standing on a chair to see her daughter dance with her father because the photographer and videographer were standing in front of them.  Four of six entertainers were in the rest room changing and using the brides vanity basket items that she had provided for their guests.  Later, they were getting a soda at the bar during their break, totally blocking the guests from getting access to the bar while they were hanging there.  And each time, they got annoyed and made me feel like the bad guy.  With 14 plus professionals, I began to feel that the bride and groom and their families and friends were being swallowed up.  Everywhere you turned, there was a camera, a light, a video, a dee jay or dancer in your face.  These types of professionals are fine for a large expansive venue, but really become burdensome for a smaller, more intimate one.  My advice?  Make sure you know how many of each professional is coming with each additional service you book.  Consult with your wedding professional at the venue for advice, because we truly have seen it all.  Make sure that YOU are the only stars that shine on your wedding day.