Trending Now: Your Gut! Use what we call The Disney Effect To Plan Your Wedding

clarks-landing-blog-weddingtrends-disney effect-wedding planning njThis time of year, we are inundated with every wedding and bridal site telling us what the current trends are.  Everything from the colors, foods, style, music are dictated to every wedding professional, bride and groom.  And many of them are great suggestions.  However, my golden rule is to rely on your gut for the true wedding that you want to have and dreamed about.  For instance; I am seeing that strapless gowns are “trending” for 2017.  But if you’re a full figured lady, you will spend the entire night doing what I call “The Jersey Yank,” where you insert a hand in the front of each side of your gown and yank it up.  Paperless “save the dates” and wedding invitations are becoming popular.  But if you have older friends or relatives, they would be expecting a paper invitation, especially if they are not tech-savvy. All the decision mixed with trends make brides to be feel overwhelmed and lost on what to do. I recommend using the Disney effect.

When you try on a dress, there is usually one that makes you feel like a Disney princess and makes all the people that went with you start to cry.  That’s your dress.   There are many beautiful venues in our state with great food and service, but when you are shopping venues, there will be one that will immediately start your imagination of seeing all the plates and forks dancing and performing a Hollywood show stopper like Beauty and the Beast’s “Be Our Guest”.   Shop your photographers and get the feeling of which one’s style and personality suits yours.  You should view their work and imagine yourselves in the poses you are viewing. You might love club music and a dee jay may have every song you like, but a great entertainer will play to all of your friends and families tastes.  Can you deny your grandparents some Frank Sinatra if they wanted to dance?   It’s a thin line at times because you want the day of your dreams but you are also playing host and hostess to all of the people who are special to you, and you want to give them what they want as well.

The Disney Effect is your gut feeling.  We often discount our gut feelings and try to work towards a logical practical solution, but that’s not what your wedding day always is.  Follow all the trends to be fashionable and current, but follow your gut and be happy and have the wedding of your dreams.


Did you have a decision you struggled with while planning your wedding? But decided to use your gut? We’d love to here from you, Comment Below.


floor-plan-follies-clarks-landing-wedding-venue-njA key ingredient to the success of your wedding is the wedding reception floorplan, or, where your friends and family are sitting.  There have been a few snafus of late, so I thought I could shed some light on this stressful, but not impossible subject. So here are some things to think about when you are planning your wedding floorpan.

1. Your guest list, the venue floor plan, and your escort cards must all be the same.  This is up to you, or your wedding planner, or in some cases the parents; but it is essential.

Your Guest List – If you number the invitation responses before you send them out, then you will know who did not respond OR who responded without filling out the response card.  Also if someone responded with a guest or their children and they weren’t invited, then someone has to make the sometimes awkward call to notify them, that unfortunately your budget did not allow for guests and/or children.

The Venue Floor Plan – We use a great program called  “”  to create your event, invite you to it, and then you can download your guest list to  “ drop and click” to make your tables.  You should always follow the venues format for size of tables, location of tables, and any forms that need to be filled out.  We are all trying to make your wedding a magical, stress-free day; but I need the tools to do it.

 Your Escort Cards or Escort Board – in either case, they should be in alphabetical order.  Everyone looks for their name, but no one will look for their table, obviously because they don’t know where they are sitting.  Individual cards should have the name of the invited guest on the top line, and the table number below it.  Fonts should be large, bold and easy to read.

2. Every venue has its own policies about seating, floor plans and room set up.  If you trust your venue, then understand that they have been through this hundreds of times and know their space the best.  Don’t change table numbers, move tables around, assign too many people to a table, without clearing it with your venue.

3. Check before you provide table numbers.  You may have 15 tables, but that doesn’t mean that they will be sequential at the venue.  A big part of our service is that we always know where each table is, and the numbers don’t change.

4. At some point there WILL be changes…people drop out for various reasons, family who couldn’t come originally, plans change and they can now attend.  Communicate frequently with your wedding planner or venue to keep them up to date.  It astounds me how many people bother the couple with their personal problems just days before the wedding.  At some point you will need to let it go and don’t worry about less people at a table if someone cancels.  I feel so bad for brides that walk in the day of their wedding with place cards, hastily written, for last minute adjustments.

5. If you are savvy with technology…great.  But if you are a tactile person, that has to see and touch things, you can get piece of poster paper and draw squares on it.  As your responses come back, write the name in a square with pencil.  As responses come in, you will begin to see the tables forming themselves as you write names of people that are related, or that will naturally sit together.  When a square reaches the maximum you want or allowed by the venue, then start a new square.  Don’t even look at the floorplan until all your squares are filled with all the people on your guest list. Then assign a table number to the square.

You can always avoid the Floor Plan Follies with a little time and effort.

Happy Planning!



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